Time to jump off....?

Massive congratulations on recognising the effect it was having on you and successfully stepping back! Honestly, that in itself is a real achievement. I ran the restaurant a mixture of part time and full-time for just over 8 years and it absolutely wrecked me. Anxiety, depression, I just became a bit of a s**t person to be around day-to-day. Always expecting to get called in and sort things out. I left the business in April last year and went back to being a web developer. I never thought I'd be happy to work in an office again but here I am! I will say one positive outcome is that while seeking help for my mental health I was diagnosed with ADHD and now I'm medicated the office work is a LOT easier to deal with.

It hit me last week just how much happier I am on a fundamental level when I came home and the front door was locked. It happens all the time as my wife locks it if she's putting my son to bed. It's dark, I can't see easily, I've got my hands full, I've not got a lot of room to move around in the porch, but I get my keys out and unlock it. No problem.

A couple of years ago it would have really curse word me off and put me in a right foul mood. I'd be muttering about how much I hate the front doors (they are curse word, but they're just doors), how difficult everything has to be etc.

I went in and sat on the sofa and apologised to my wife for letting things get into that state.

You started this thread complaining about how your boss was making money off your labour and not paying you enough. I used to feel the same, but now I feel like f**k it, they can keep the extra because I get to go home happy and they have to sit at home in the evening and worry about payroll, utilities, rent, rates, insurance, accounts, tax... it's very liberating working for yourself but it comes at a cost. Kudos for finding a better balance for yourself!